I’m Surprised At You!

Are You True to Yourself?

Do you ever find who you are, who you really are, conflicts with what others think you should be?

It was Terry Cole Whittaker who wrote, “What you think of me is none of my business.”

Many of us know this to be true. Few of us are willing to admit just how many times we’ve failed at applying those simple words. Perhaps one of the reasons this happens is we are more concerned with what others think about us than we are about seeking to be ourselves.

One blogger recently wrote that our health, relationships, careers and financial status is reflected in the lives of our five closest friends. While this may or may not be true for each of us, I found it enlightening to consider. The tipping point for me is that if I have to change who I am to be around the people with whom I want to associate there is something wrong.

It comes back to that adage to walk the talk, not just talk the talk. Years ago I worked at a prayer ministry. At the end of the shift we’d tally up the issues we’d been asked to pray for by the callers. Inevitably, the largest numbers turned out to be for an issue we ourselves were having difficulty with at the time. It’s an eye opener to be giving counsel to others on a topic we are fussing about – one of those “SNAP OUTTA IT!” moments.

Is it time to re-think how you live? Are you willing to step back from your life and reflect on whether or not what you see supports you in the ways you need to be supported? It can be scary – what if we start being who we are and our friends run away?

Truth be told, our “friends” won’t. And, if there is a vacuum of any kind, the universe will fill it with what we need, not what we settled for. The universe abhors a vacuum and you are a magnificent child of the Divine. You don’t have to settle for anything less than what you know you deserve.

The question is, What is it that you know you deserve? Got it? Now go accept it!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,

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Is That Really True?

Theme for the Week of February 1:

Living in Alignment with Truth

We see a world in which people live in alignment with their highest spiritual truth.

How do you know what you read or hear is true? This is probably a good questions for Americans to be asking right now, considering it’s a presidential election year here in the States. There are so many conflicting “facts” that the truth may not be easy to ascertain.

The theme of the week is “Living in Alignment with Truth.” That subject might seem the complete opposite of political agendas, but there actually is a direct correlation between the two. We all grow up with some idea of what spiritual truth is, though we may not call it by that name. The spiritual truth that we are raised with is usually the religion of our parents. Though we may not necessarily believe now what we were taught as a child, the benchmark by which we measure truth in the rest of our lives could be influenced by religious training.

As adults we have come to learn that the church is not always right and spiritual leaders not as perfect as we were taught to believe. Still, the idea that there is a rock-solid truth upon which we can base our life is something we may still seek from the physical world around us.

It is said that we are welcome to construct our own opinions based on whatever facts we choose; we do not, however, get to change the Truth. The real Truth we seek is contained with universal laws that never change. They work for everyone and they work everywhere.

Here’s a great litmus test for vetting any idea or claim that comes along:

  • Is it the truth?
  • Is it really the truth?
  • How do I know it’s the truth?
  • Since it’s the truth, am I willing to base the life of my child or loved one on it?
  • How would my experience be if it wasn’t the truth?

I hope you’ll want to continue the discussion this week! Just click on over to the Facebook page for Spirit, Mind and Body Foundation, my Centers for Spiritual Living focus ministry. Come on – click over! (That’s where all the fun is!)

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,



Can I Trust You?

Are you a trust worthy person? I’m sure you probably are. I sincerely believe people usually do the right thing when it comes to honesty. But are there trust issues in your life you’ve been ignoring?

When thinking of trust issues I suggest most of us think not of ourselves, but more oftenLying than not a partner, family member or friend who has lied to us in the past. It’s especially hard for some of us, myself included, to re-establish trust when someone I hold dear has lied to me simply because they didn’t want to face the consequences of the truth.

I have a rule in my relationships:  Tell me the truth.

I may very well not like the truth. That’s okay. The upset from me hearing the truth about something I don’t like is miniscule when compared to the nuclear fallout that will occur when I’m lied to … period.

Al Gore’s famous documentary, “An Inconvenient Truth,” comes to mind. Truth can be darn inconvenient when it reveals our insecurities, our lack of follow-through or a revelation that we lied. Lie to ME and you’ll find out just how inconvenient your life will be. I’ve tried to express this verbally to at least one person in my life on more than one occasion. Perhaps seeing this publicly, in writing, will not only help the person to become crystal clear, but will also help others to see the seriousness of falsehood in their own lives.

How does this all fit into the universe principles that we live by and use daily? If we are untruthful about anything – yes, anything – then that untruth will fester like a splinter in our finger. If it is not removed – by being revealed – it will eventually become ever more painful, while all the time we’ll be wondering why our lives are in the toilet.

Do yourself a favor this week:  Be truthful. If you’ve made a commitment to someone you can no longer keep, speak to them and either re-negotiate the terms or sever the agreement. It may take a clean cut with a sharp knife to get that splinter out. But I’m here to tell you it’s a lot easier than having it sawed on with a serrated blade, which is what it will feel like if you wait. As always,

In Spirit, TRUTH and Playfulness,



Yes, Precious, It DOES Matter

There WILL be a spiritual component to this writing … I promise … but you need a little “set-up” for it.
So … I'm off to my “day job” as a flight attendant, going through the "Known Crew Member (KCM)" security check at BWI last Monday morning at 4:35am for my 5:00am sign-in.
I hand my passport to the TSA agent, scan my KCM badge, then hold my airline ID badge for her to compare my ID, passport and the photo of me on the monitor.
She looks at my passport.
She looks at my badge.
She waits for the photo to come up on the screen.
Her eyebrows raise, ever so slightly.
She looks at my passport again, then at my ID and the back at the screen.
Then, she looks up at me.
Her left eyebrow raises in a more pronounced manner.
She looks back at the passport, issued in 2006.
She looks back at me.
THEN she says it:
“WOW! You sure have aged!”
I’m barely standing up straight, managing on 4.5 hours of sleep, a two-hour drive to the airport in the middle of the night and it’s now 4:36am.
I am NOT in the mood.
My response?
I honestly didn’t have one – don’t ask me to be witty before coffee. I did manage my best flight attendant fake smile (you know, the one that looks nice and really means, “Drop dead”), accompanied by a slight raise of MY left eyebrow.
I stopped short of saying something about one of the worst hair weaves in the greater Baltimore/Washington DC area and that “someone” likes the McDonald’s and Dunkin’ Donuts just down the corridor a little more than is prudent. I’ve learned to NEVER push a TSA agent, particularly one that obviously takes great pride reveling in perhaps the only part of her life in which she feels she has complete and utter control.
So what isthe spiritual side of all this? This amazing light being with bad hair and a penchant toward hypertensive heart disease was scheduled at exactly the right time and on the precise day that I would come up to her desk for her to be able to deliver a message from Spirit that I did not want to hear:  “Terry, We believe you are a “bit” more concerned about turning 60 next year than you might want to admit. Jus’ sayin’. Thanks, The Universe.”
Like a lot of people, I’ve been known occasionally to believe denial of the facts will encourage the manifestation

of what we imagine to be eternal truth. The Truth is, however, denial doesn’t do anything for us, except perhaps make us uncomfortable because we’re lying to ourselves and everyone around us. What we can deny is the necessity of our situation and then turn to knowing the Truth.

We forget that the “facts” are not the Truth. It isn’t turning 60, or having a few pounds after we gave birth to our third child, or finding hair growing in places we didn’t know hair would grow, or not fitting into our favorite skinny jeans. It’s what meaning we assign to those facts that change our attitude and our experience in life.
What facts have you been denying in your life? Would you be willing to admit what you don’t want to think about? Admitting the facts doesn’t mean we forget the Truth. It’s the first step to our healing. In the words of my friend, Arleen, “You’ve suffered long enough. Are you willing to try something else?”
So, are you? Willing to try something else? And, FYI? My birthday is May 23. I expect cards. LOTS of cards. Jus’ sayin’….
In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,