Is It Time to Quit?

Are you a quitter? “Of course not!” you might exclaim as if being classified as a quitter is worse than being a murderer. In some ways, you’d be right.

We are taught never quit, never give up. It’s drilled into our heads that quitters are losers. However, recent studies indicate that quitting a job, a relationship, a project or any number of other things might be one of the more healthy actions we can take.

Economist tells us that there is a point where we must cut our losses and move on; we have to sell the stock or take the loss on the investment. To get out of an investment is hard enough; relationships – another area hard to quit – can be even more problematic.

As Ennis says to Jack in the film Brokeback Mountain, “I wish I knew how to quit you.” We decide we need the guy to provide for us since we haven’t worked in decades. We determine that she’s only violent when she drinks and she’s always remorseful. After all, those partners have “so much potential.”

The problem with sticking with anything after its expiration date is that we only make ourselves sick, miserable and feeling like a victim. If only jobs and relationships had a “sell by” or “discard by” date like our milk products and other perishable food items do.

We wouldn’t drink curdled, tainted milk or think twice about tossing moldy leftovers found in the refrigerator. Yet we continue to stick it out in life situations hoping, without any logic and historical perspective to the contrary, that s/he/they will change or this time our horse will win.

Quitting a losing battle by moving to a job we love or leaving a relationship that is abusive or has a “past due to discard” date is empowering, energizing and freeing for everyone concerned. If you think you have something like this in your own life at this time please take the time to put your thoughts down on paper. List all the positive aspects of your situation, as well as the more negative circumstances. How does this list balance out?

Take this into prayer and meditation over the next two or three weeks. It’s seldom wise to make a snap decision on affairs of the heart or when we are feeling like making a change will brand us a quitter. But change is the only constant in the universe. Nothing stays the same.

Give quitting a chance. Realize that leaving what no longer serves us signals to the universe that we are willing to live dynamically and in new ways. In doing so, we bless ourselves and all those around us.

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,


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Mushrooms and Manure

Do you seem at times to be doing a lot, but accomplishing little? Working through a To Do list can end up being more of a chore than a triumph. If this has happened to you then perhaps it’s not the list but what’s on it.

People often wonder why their goals are not realized or their prayers not answered. A major part of seeing our desires manifest is the commitment we exhibit to produce the end result. It’s very easy to get bogged down in the details so that we are doing busy-work, rather than being busy about the work at hand.

Helpful in this regard is being able to understand the difference between what we need to do to accomplish our goals and what could be unnecessary drudgery. In his new book, “Elders Rock!” author Dr. Harvey W. Austin states this:

“Distinguish the mushroom from the horse manure it grows in.
They are both brown, but only one is edible.”

Well … THAT certainly puts it in a difference perspective, doesn’t it?mush1

We can ask ourselves if the world will end if our bed isn’t made daily. We might stop complaining about the commercials between the scenes of our favorite TV show and consider recording them to watch later in less time by skipping over the ads. Why, we might even consider what we want to do for the holidays instead of what society or our families say we should do.

My Grandma Esther used to say that being in horse manure up to your neck really isn’t so bad. After all, it’s warm and after a while you get used to the smell. I would challenge you to see if you’re putting up with the s%*t in your life that no longer serves you just because it’s easier than doing something about it.

Using a person in our life as the excuse not to return to school or take that trip may allow us to ignore the part that includes worrying about having the money needed. A physical ail may allow us to skip out on functions we didn’t have the nerve to say “No” to. The list goes on; I encourage you to find your own stories in this regard.

And, yes, they are stories. They are the horse manure we serve up to ourselves and others when we aren’t ready to make a decision. But the problem with that is it becomes all too easy, too warm, too comfortable, and so we stay stuck in the muck.

Perhaps this week you’ll consider the possibility of being more selective about the “mushrooms” you pick, noting more importantly what could be hanging on. If we are mindful and focused on our goals then we can allow the waste to fall off our plate just as easily as brushing the dirt and other matter off a little mushroom. Bon Appétit!

P.S.  Be sure to check out Harvey’s new book – just click here!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,