Category: Relationships

Can I Trust You?

Truth, Integrity, and Lying by Omission (A reprint and updated version of “Can I Trust You,” from July 2016) Are you a trust worthy person? I’m sure you probably are. I sincerely believe people usually do the right thing when it comes to honesty. But, are there trust issues...

Stop Tolerating Your Life!

In my last blog I wrote about accepting people as they want to be. In other words, stop trying to teach the pig to sing – it doesn’t work and it annoys the pig. Please don’t get self-righteous and tell me I’m calling people pigs, although that wouldn’t be...

Changing Others

“Just who do you think you are to tell God what to do?!?” That’s the response I got from a spiritual counselor years ago when I was detailing to her all the ways my lover at the time needed to change to have the life he deserved. “What makes...

You’ll Never Guess What’s Killing Men

Husbands and Buddies and Friends, OH MY! If you’re reading this, there’s an 80 percent chance you’re female. My subscribers are predominately women and 35+. (If you’re a guy – thank you for subscribing and reading my work!) Truth is, I’ve always attracted more women than men in my...

Don’t Tell Me What to Do!

You Know You Should … Do you like to be told what you should or shouldn’t be doing? I don’t. People often try to be helpful by finding solutions for us. It’s not usually as helpful as they’d like to believe. I bring up “shoulding” because perhaps you’ve noticed...

I’m Surprised At You!

Are You True to Yourself? Do you ever find who you are, who you really are, conflicts with what others think you should be? It was Terry Cole Whittaker who wrote, “What you think of me is none of my business.” Many of us know this to be true....

Listen up, Buttercup!

Do You REALLY Listen? “YOU’RE NOT LISTENING TO ME!” How many times in your life has someone screamed that at you? I’ve been on the receiving end of that frustrating communication. And, speaking solely for myself, I have to say that almost without fail when those words were thrust...

Is Your “Give-A-Damn” Busted?

Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean Pitching Self-Respect Do you ever feel like forgiveness makes you into a doormat? It can if we let it, but I hope that a new look at forgiveness and moving forward in life will make that a thing of the past for you. The Big Book...

Is It Time to Quit?

Are you a quitter? “Of course not!” you might exclaim as if being classified as a quitter is worse than being a murderer. In some ways, you’d be right. We are taught never quit, never give up. It’s drilled into our heads that quitters are losers. However, recent studies...

Gay is Wrong; Bestiality and Magic? No Problem.

http://www.cnn.com/2017/03/03/us/theater-shuns-disney-beauty-over-gay-moment/index.html I find it odd that people calling themselves Christians are boycotting the new "Beauty and the Beast" movie just because the character, LeFou (Gaston's sidekick) is shown questioning his feelings for another guy. THIS bothers the Bible belters even though Jesus said nothing about men loving one another....