Light a Candle

How tired are you of the negativity, outright lies and blatant disregard for common sense we hear from the media?

I know.

Silly question.

It’s like whenever there’s a disaster of any kind in the world:  We don’t want to watch, but we do. Sometimes we get so addicted to the details – even though the reporters are merely repeating what was already said 20 minutes earlier – that we find ourselves almost immovable in front of our screen.

If what we are hearing is an affront to our intelligence and common decency we may decide to lash out in protest, often posting or spreading reports and details that we’ve not properly vetted ourselves. This is easy to do, particularly if the information we discover and disseminate agrees with our viewpoint or political ideology.

Later, however, we may find out the evidence we neglected to personally research turns out to be fabricated or satirical, making us look rather pathetic while at the same time giving undue credence to a person or cause not worthy of such trust.

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Perhaps it’s time our relatively young country takes some sage advice from the other side of the pond. In her 2015 Christmas message, England’s Queen Elizabeth reminded us,

It is said that it is better to light a candle than curse the darkness.

That’s not to say we shouldn’t be uninformed or put our heads in the sand because our global issues are complex. What we can do is learn what we need to know; then, exercise our personal power to honestly recognize when it’s time to curb our appetite for a diet we know will not just leave us unsatisfied, but also annoyed, more stressed out and with a sense of dread.

As much as we might like to see someone or some organization get what we suppose to be their just desserts, our time would be better spent in improving our own lives, the lives of those we love and furthering peace and understanding on the planet.

Where will you light a candle in the apparent darkness of your day?

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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There is Power in Disempowerment

Do feel like you live from a place of power, meaning you feel empowered in your life, the decisions you make and the direction of your life? My friend and colleague, the well-known prosperity speaker and Unity minister, Rev. Edwene Gaines, introduces herself as a “woman of power.” That rubs some people the wrong way and Edwene couldn’t give a rat’s patooty about it.

It seems society teaches us to vie for power and then criticizes those who pursue it, particularly if that person is female, LGBTQ or non-white. But this is especially true for women of power. Men are extolled for their achievement of power, regardless of whether or not they use that power wisely or as a trump card for being a ruthless, uncaring and callous bully. But if women wield power they are considered ball-busting bitches. Yeah, I’m a feminist if you haven’t already gathered it. But I digress…Blog

The question is not about how inconsistent society is in the way it glorifies and at the same time disdains power. Victims of violent crimes, particularly rape and long-term abuse, are encouraged to take back their power. This process is not only cathartic, but also tremendously effective in advancing the healing process. This is one example of when the gaining and building of our power is life-giving and a positive action.

Here’s a question we can each ask ourselves:  Is there a time when we should let go of power to, in effect, disempower ourselves? Is there a place in this time of modern technology that allows us to be in control – empowered – in so many aspects of our life to simply be powerless? I believe there is and here’s how it looks.

Disempowering areas of our lives doesn’t mean we have given up or failed. Disempowerment is not about playing the victim or the martyr. What it IS about is choice. Have you allowed other people or society to decide for you where YOU need to be empowered? Do you notice if you have fallen into the media, advertising and marketing trap of needing the right car, perfect career, trophy mate or best clothes to feel empowered?

Nothing you see advertised – with VERY few exceptions – is being thrown at you with your best interests in mind. Rather, the push to buy, lease or otherwise obtain the stuff being puked up at us all over social and other media is to benefit the promoter of the items. That’s not to say manufacturers, artists and inventors shouldn’t be paid well for the products they produce. They should. It is, however, to say that we don’t need what they sell to achieve and enjoy the true power we seek.

Take some time this week to see where you’ve pushed for power or empowerment in areas of your life that leaves you with the sense of, “What in the hell am I doing this for?!?” Then, disempower THOSE actions and take back the power of choice in your own life to create a life truly worth living!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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I Love You – Now Change!

Have you noticed how we hold celebrities and spiritual leaders to a higher standard than others? We can be quick to criticize the conduct of people we hold in high esteem if what they do or say doesn’t fit the pictures we’ve created of them.

For example, if celebrity couples separate or divorce the gossip rags go crazy, citing the events as yet another example of how famous people can’t manage relationships well – as if the general public can cast the first stone or look to their own record as evidence they can!

As a writer and speaker I get messages and comments on my blog and Facebook pages that are not just critical, but actually angry explanations of how I’ve somehow betrayed the trust of my readers by admitting something has pissed me off. One ministerial colleague recently exclaimed, “Is THAT the way a TRUE minister of Religious Science should act/talk/write?”really-seth-and-amy

Admittedly, I swear more than some people think I should, though considerably less than I used to. Others believe a profane word should never be heard from me because I’m supposed to be “spiritual,” which I am and they are, no matter what they think. I’ve even been told I shouldn’t use contractions in my writing and blogging, because that’s not professional – although my judicious use of the Oxford comma is LEGENDARY, if I must say so myself!

Further, even though the New Thought philosophies in which I believe and teach embrace the love in all faiths and philosophies, my experience in and practice of pagan arts and traditions make even some of my closest friends and family suspect, squeamish or uncomfortable.

None of this is my problem.

The fact that some individuals, colleagues and even friends are taken aback or critical of how I live my life is their issue, not mine. You know how this works; it’s the same way you rub some people the wrong way when you act like you do, simply being “you.” I certainly don’t expect you to censure your magnificence and I’ll be damned if I will either.

We are living in one of the most – not if the THE most – exciting, innovative and, at the same time, potentially terrifying times in human history. The exponential explosion of technology has advanced far beyond what our brains have evolved to handle. Yet within that same technology lie answers to problems which have plagued civilization for centuries, even though that same science raises as many questions as it answers.

This can be scary, so the uneducated and timid who are experts in playing the victim look to others to be more than they think they themselves can be. New flash:  The people we idolize and think never have problems DO have challenges and also look up to others. Those esteemed leaders go through many of the same doubts that we do.

The difference in being a leader – whether it’s of a corporation, a spiritual community or our family – is that we don’t give up. We acknowledge our mistakes, make course corrections and move on. But the truth – whether you think you’re a leader or not which, by the way, you are! – is that we must be the authentic, real and unabashedly unique individuals we are no matter what. To do any less is robbing ourselves and everyone else of our true expression of life.

We also accept each other for who we are, not for who we want each other to be. I stand by this quote that I first penned over two decades ago:

You cannot have a relationship with someone’s potential.

This also means that we may not be everyone’s cup of tea. If that’s the case, best to allow those relationships and connections to dissolve organically. We might need to burn a bridge or slam a door or two; if we’re absolutely sure that’s what needs to happen then so be it.

So why do we cling to that and who which no longer serves our vision of life by encouraging us, uplifting us and loving us, particularly when we’re trying so hard to be there for them? Because the other side of that equation is that while we’re “working on someone else” or trying to get them to change, the work we ought to be doing on ourselves goes right in the toilet.

It’s time once again that we all stepped back from the world around us, looked in the mirror just one more time, and figured out what we have to give to the world, as well as what we want out of life. Don’t you deserve to have a life worth living with people around you who celebrate YOU?!?

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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What’s Your Vision

Do you have a “vision?” One of the most important tools we can have for success is a personal vision statement. It succinctly articulates what we want our lives to accomplish, what we want to enjoy, how we wish to live, with whom we wish to live it, and what impact we intend to have on the planet using the gifts that are uniquely ours to give.

This week we continue to discuss The Global Vision:  A World That Works For Everyone, brought to us by Centers for Spiritual Living. The organization has chosen “What’s Your Vision?” for discussion this week. As you may already know, this topic is one of the mainstays of my teaching, my ministry and my own life. I’m very excited to share these ideas with you specifically this week.

A vision statement, and its accompanying mission statement, has become a necessity for businesses and organizations over the past few decades. We’ve come to expect them to be prominently displayed in offices and on websites.

What is often missing, however, is a personal vision, something just for us. For us to have a world that works for everyone – meaning we all have enough food, a comfortable place to live and a sense of belonging – we must be clear individually as to what that means for us personally.

It is only by being firm in our own direction that we can be of use and service to others. To serve without a vision is to flounder in uncertainty, accomplishing little and ending the day with a sense of dissatisfaction and confusion.

Over the next week at the Facebook® page for Spirit, Mind and Body Foundation I’ll be discussing this week’s topic by providing a free-of-charge, mini-course on this theme from my last book, “How to Find Your Vision and Get a Life! Using a vision and mission to create a life worth living.”20150623_093529

I hope you’ll join me and actively participate in the daily lessons and discussions. (Spoiler Alert:  I’m developing an entire eight-week course on this book for individual and organizational use that is expected to be available in the fall.) See you over at SMBF on Facebook®!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Why?

How often during the day do you ask or hear, “Why?”

“There is no answer to a ‘why’ question.” I was once told. I believe the comment was in response to what a minister should say to comfort the surviving family of someone who had recently died.

Actually, that’s probably not a good time to ask why. It’s a time to comfort one another, get through the next few days, weeks or months, and look for answers later. Another time when “Why?” does little good is when we are discussion the actions and the subsequent outcomes of what other people do.

06AWe figure if we know why then we’ll understand. Guess what? We don’t need to know why someone died or someone else made a really stupid choice. (This is where you are asking “Why?” so I’ll humor you for the purpose of discussion!) The reason is that we can’t figure out the actions or outcome of others when they often don’t know themselves.

There’s another reason. If we’re focused on other people we don’t have to pay attention our own situations, problems and circumstances. That takes the pressure off us for the time being, but it doesn’t do much for moving forward in our own lives.

This week’s them is, “What is your why?” Over at the Facebook® page for Spirit, Mind and Body Foundation, we’re going to be discussing the whys and wherefores of living our daily life and planning for the future. We’ll also look at how we are in essence blindly backing into our futures while we’re turned around figuring out someone else’s “why” of the past. Finally we’ll contemplate what our world could look like in which personal responsibility joins with social conscience in the political, corporate, academic and social sectors.

Yeah, I know. Another jammed-packed week of looking at our lives, how to better our expression of love, working with our planet and being happy. It’s my life. Why?

Because I know that sharing my thoughts might stir your thoughts, even if your thinking is the opposite of mine. Because sometimes you share those thoughts with me, and that helps clarify my own thinking and that of my readers. And, because staying positive and looking forward helps me to help others have lives worth living. Join me!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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We Are More Than We Know

Has anyone ever told you that you should live up to your potential? I’ve heard that, either directed toward me or in passing when one person is discussing someone else (usually their husband or child).

My first thought is always, “How do you know the ultimate potential of someone else?” My second thought comes something along the line about the person minding their own darn business, but I digress …

30AWe are more than we realize in the sense that we have abilities (not just potentials!) far beyond what we’ve been taught we have at our disposal. For example, it used to be that positive thinking was just some woo-woo idea taught by charlatans trying to get our money; or people who said they were spiritual, but not saying the same thing the churches were.

Today we have scientific evidence through numerous studies and other research that prove our thoughts (positive or negative) impact the outcomes in our lives. Catch yourself this week if or when you say, “I can’t … “ Really? You can’t? Why not? What’s stopping you?

Now don’t go getting all ridiculous on me and say, “Well, I can’t fly, so I guess you have to admit there are things we can’t do!” Well, of course. DUH! Seriously though, if that’s a person’s first reaction then we don’t judge them, we treat them with kindness. They may be looking for reasons to fail, to be a victim, to have people feel sorry for them … or, they could be just trying to be a smartass, in which case an argument is a waste of time.

We stop ourselves or make excuses for our lack of success all the time, but why? Because someone else thinks we can’t and we decided, for whatever reason, to believe them! Why? Because we’ve bought into being too old, or too young, or too fat, or too skinny, or too whatever which, in society’s eyes, says we can’t. That’s our BS and you know what that is:  Our Belief System.

This week decide to get a new BS degree. Get a new belief system that supports you in being magnificent and fulfilling a potential you either know you have, or at least suspect you might possess, that will propel you into a life worth living in ways you’ve not even yet imagined.

P.S.  This week over at the Facebook® page for Spirit, Mind and Body Foundation we’ll be talking more about our potential, how to increase our awareness of our abilities, how to break the barriers that binds us from having an amazing life and much, much more. It’s all part of our 2016 theme, The Global Vision:  A World That Works For Everyone. Come join the conversation!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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You Talking to Me?

How many times have you heard that line in a movie or TV show based in New York City? I lived in Manhattan for nearly two years. No one ever said that to me. Perhaps I’m not that threatening, but then again I talk to most everyone.

That’s the standard joke in my family. I can get someone’s full family history, find out their deepest secrets and leave them with a smile on their face and hope for the future – all in 30 seconds or less in the check-out line at a convenience store.16 Blog

It’s a gift.

Kidding aside, however, people talk to us all the time. If we are to live the global vision of a world that works for everyone we ought to be listening more carefully. Perhaps we don’t like what we’re hearing. Or, maybe we just don’t like the message being delivered by what we consider to be the wrong person.

I know it’s a real ego buster when someone we don’t care for smacks us with the truth about our situation. Ouch. You’ve been there I’m sure. I know I have. We don’t want to admit the truth about why we are in yet another abusive relationship, dead-end job or reoccurring illness, but there we are and the person we least appreciate being in our life is there to deliver the obvious.

What to do? Here’s a couple of ideas:

  • Do NOT react.
  • Breathe. Deeply. Allow your body and mind to relax.
  • Agree. Yeah, I know. It’s really hard sometimes, but just for the moment agree with the person. This defuses any anger or upset on the part of the other person involved, which in turn allows us to relax a bit as well.
  • Forgive yourself. Why? Because if you could be doing any better you would be.
  • Resolve to do better, whatever that looks like for you, understanding that what it might look like is continuing to be a hot mess for a bit longer.
  • Thank the person. No, seriously. Thank them. They are the messenger of Spirit, sent to you to help you. If you’d listened to your inner guidance you wouldn’t be having this experience. So suck it up, Buttercup, and remember to listen next time when your intuition tells you what you should or shouldn’t be doing.
  • Forgive yourself. Again. Sorry, that last bullet point was a bit harsh. But it’s the Truth, so take another deep breath and forgive yourself. You don’t read my work because I’m Glinda the Good Witch, all pink and sparkly. You expect me to be blunt, but I hope you know I still love you. (If it’s any consolation the people I love and respect in my life do the same thing to me … and at the time I usually don’t like it either … I feel your pain.)
  • It’s only going to get better!

You’re smiling, right? If you aren’t running in terror right now or hitting “unsubscribe” from my blogs, then come on over to the Facebook® page for Spirit, Mind and Body Foundation, my Centers for Spiritual Living focus ministry. Every day this week we’ll be chatting about ways to live in closer contact with the inner revealer of Truth and learn how to communicate better with those around us.

Come join the fun!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Would You Like to Prosper in Life?

Theme for the Week of April 25:
Kinship With All Life
 

Affirmation:  We see a world in which kinship with all life prospers.

 Would You Like to Prosper in Life?

Do you believe we still live in a “dog-eat-dog” world? When media feeding frenzies highlight what’s wrong on our planet it could leave us to agree. And, many businesses are still operating with the model that there’s only room for one at the top.

This week in our daily discussions over at the Facebook® page for Spirit, Mind and Body Foundation we’ll be looking again at our unity with all life, but also how we can participate in the prosperity of all concerned.

How prospering looks for each of us is an individual determination. Just as prosperity is not all about money, prospering is not necessarily the ideal set out for us in the media through advertising and marketing. For some of us, prospering in life can be as simple as being content with what we have.

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This is not meant to infer that we should become complacent in life. Contentment and complacency are two different things – yet another topic we’ll look at this week! What we focus on increases; this is a basic universal law. Therefore, if we are constantly complaining about our body image, our relationships, our job or our bank account, what do you think is increasing? All the things we don’t want!

Join me this week in a further examination of the unity of all life, the kinship we hold with creatures like us and those dissimilar, how we can prosper through contentment and how we can actively partner in a prospering life for all.

Yes, it’s going to be quite a week!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Say WHAT?!?

Theme for the Week of April 18:
Consciousness Creates Reality

“We believe that the manifest universe is the body of God.”
– Ernest Holmes

Say WHAT?!?

Are you enjoying the themes so far this year? Please let me know what you think! While I’m committed to joining other spiritual communities in this quest of #TheGlobalVision - #AWorldThatWorksForEveryone, I want to make sure that we are discussing and thinking about how these themes and ideas fit into our own lives, how we can live happier, more productive lives because of them. Let me know what you want to hear more of, if you’re not getting what you want from this blog!

Take this week, for instance. Do you still see God as the “Old Man in the Sky?” It’s not as uncommon as you think. Plenty of people have been raised to see God as far-off, distant, judgmental and to-be-feared so as not to displease Him. And, oh yes, God is definitely a “Him.”

Not so much … really! First of all the Judiac-Christian Bible, if that is your holy book of reference, must depict God as male due to the patriarchal nature of those societies. Yet to think that God is physically male is to negate the fact that anything we believe as God must not have actually corporeal form, even though we’ve been taught to see God as such.

If we go back to the consciousness of Oneness (that we are all made of the same “stuff”), then that means God is that same stuff, too. So whatever we see around us is a manifestation of God-stuff. Or, as Holmes put it, “the body of God.” So, our consciousness creates reality. Say WHAT?!?

Yep, and I know that brings up a LOT of different emotions. Over the next week on the Facebook® page of Spirit, Mind and Body Foundation we’ll be discussing how to increase our awareness of “God made manifest” within us and all those around us. How will that look and how will that help us have a life more worth living?18

Well, if our consciousness creates reality – meaning that we are cause to the effect in our lives – how can we have more of what we want; and, conversely, less of what we do NOT want? How can we deal with seemingly impossible choices or disastrous events? We’ll include all of that and more. Intrigued? I am! So please join me daily and let’s get to the bottom of this!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Do You Want to Be Alone?

Theme for the week of April 11:
You Cannot Disconnect From Life

Affirmation:
We see a world in which we live and grow as One Global Family
that respects and honors the interconnectedness of all life.

Do you ever want to get away from it all? As complicated as our modern lives can get at times it’s no wonder if you do. We all deserve a break from the daily grind. Or not! We could talk about when we let ourselves get into jobs or lives that are a grind, but that’s not our topic.

11Apparently, Greta Garbo has been mis-quoted for decades – that happens a lot more than we’d like to admit! She didn’t say she wanted to be alone; she said she wanted to be let alone. There IS a difference!

I once heard a saying, “Wherever you go there you are.” In other words, we can't run away from our problems, at least not for very lone. The same is true if we try to completely disconnect from life. It’s not possible. Sure we can go camping for the weekend in the woods, or go completely off the grid, but we are still interconnected with all life around us.

To some that might feel like we can never be alone with our thoughts. To others it might be a comfort to know we always have the support and energy of others with us. How do you feel about it?

It can be exhausting if we think we have to do it all, go it alone or tough it out. As long as we can get our ego to suspend judgment, asking for help or working with others provides something that we all crave on one level – connection. The physical, social, philosophical and sexual connections we experience nurture and sustain us as we move through our spiritual experience in our human forms.

Over the next week on the Facebook® page of Spirit, Mind and Body Foundation we’ll be discussing how to increase our awareness of the interconnectedness of all life. And, we’ll look at new ways of using our connections to have truly amazing lives. Join us!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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