Acceptance Is Not Approval

Does everyone act the way you want them to? In the past, people have been ultimately disappointed in their efforts to make me into something I’m not. When I founded my first spiritual community in 1993, I was warned by some of the higher ups at the time to keep my homosexuality under wraps. You can guess my response.

At the planning meeting for that center, I was clear from the start. “I’m gay, this is my husband, Frank. While I’m not a gay minister, whatever that means, I am a minister who is gay. If that’s a problem for you, then I’m not the pastor you seek, nor is this the congregation for you.”

No one left and I’ve never looked back.

Acceptance is not approval

The same leaders who wanted me to keep my sexuality in the closet would be the first to tell me they accepted me. Damn straight, no pun intended, since over half of those who sounded the alarms were gay men. But they sure didn’t approve. They weren’t out, so why did I have to be? I blessed their good intentions and created a ministerial career of which I was proud when I retired  25 years later, after leading four communities.

Today’s quote is apt for our current political and health situations. We can accept the existence of situations or behavior, whether we judge them good or bad. What our acceptance does not necessary include is approval of said situation or behavior. Unless we are ready to leave it alone – whatever “it” is – we haven’t accepted it.

If acceptance is to be pure, unattachment to any change is required. Not detachment; unattachment. We no longer think about it. It’s gone. Over. It’s accepted.

Like forgiveness, true acceptance releases the psychic bonds created by disagreement between individuals. And, similar to forgiveness, it’s not for others that we accept what is occurring. It’s for our freedom from the angst and stress that not doing so will cause us.

Spiritual Mind Treatment for the Week of January 17, 2021

When we can sit in the face of insanity or dislike and be free from the need to make it different, then we are free.

Ruth King

Let the words below be your words if that feels right for you.

There is only one power in the universe. That power is infinite intelligence. It creates out of pure thought. I am one with that power, for I am its creation.

I speak my word for acceptance. I allow others to live their lives without my interference. I am unaware of all the circumstances surrounding the decision of other people, of groups, or organizations, or of countries.

Instead of fighting to change others I relax into the business of changing myself. I do this not out of selfishness, but of self-full-ness. By accepting myself and creating a life of prosperity, love, joy, and happiness, I help lead the way for others to do the same. Within each person is the power to change. I honor and rejoice in the power in which we each have to utilize and display the best of the best.

In keeping at observance of conditions around me, I take action to affect change in the ways in which I am guided. I continue to stand for issues of equality, equanimity, and cooperation. I support other people and organizations in whatever way I can to further these ideals.

I show my appreciation for the purity of thought in my heart at this moment. I release these words into the universe for divine right action now. And So It Is.

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