You Reached the Goal! Now What?

Photographer: Aidan Meyer

Accomplishments should bring us joy … shouldn’t they? One might think so and I would agree. Yet that is not always the case.

It’s not uncommon for us to discover accomplishments bring completely opposite feelings. We might feel lost or have an empty feeling after achieving a goal. Weddings are like that all-too-often. Months or more than a year of planning is suddenly over in just a few hours. More than one couple has thought, That was it?

The most common reason for these feelings might very be that we are more into striving after the goal than desiring the goal itself. Why would that be? This can be caused when we are about being busy working toward a goal to distract us from dealing with other important issues.

If we get the house redecorated perhaps we’ll be happier. If we lose weight then more people will like us. Eventually our home looks great and we’ve slimmed down, only to discover that our marriage is still a mess, or that still no one wants to date us because of our overall attitude about life in general.

There are some very simple steps we can practice to avoid the “Was that really worth the effort?” feeling:

  • Commit only to goals you’re really excited about achieving. Don’t allow the goals of others to delay the actions you must take to realize your own desires.
  • Stop – full stop! – to appreciate your accomplishments when they arrive. Too often we are so busy running to the next goal that we forget to acknowledge our achievements.
  • Pursue goals so incredibly desirable that accomplishing the tasks will be all the reward you need. Sure, what you create may benefit many more people than just you, but the joy should be complete in the accomplishment itself.

Perhaps today would be a good day to think about our goals. It’s healthy for you and me to step back from time-to-time to see if we’ve been busy working toward a goal, or just staying busy. Reversing course, or charting a completely new direction, is not a failure to achieve what we want. We are not giving up. We are restating our vision and reworking the mission and purpose necessary to get us from where we are to where we want to be.

Copyright © 2019 Terry Drew Karanen. All rights reserved.
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