Accomplishments should bring us
joy … shouldn’t they? One might think so and I would agree. Yet that is not
always the case.
It’s not uncommon for us to
discover accomplishments bring completely opposite feelings. We might feel lost
or have an empty feeling after achieving a goal. Weddings are like that
all-too-often. Months or more than a year of planning is suddenly over in just
a few hours. More than one couple has thought, That was it?
The most common reason for these
feelings might very be that we are more into striving after the goal than desiring
the goal itself. Why would that be? This can be caused when we are about being
busy working toward a goal to distract us from dealing with other important
If we get the house redecorated perhaps
we’ll be happier. If we lose weight then more people will like us. Eventually
our home looks great and we’ve slimmed down, only to discover that our marriage
is still a mess, or that still no one wants to date us because of our overall
attitude about life in general.
There are some very simple steps we
can practice to avoid the “Was that really worth the effort?” feeling:
Commit only to goals you’re really excited about
achieving. Don’t allow the goals of others to delay the actions you must take
to realize your own desires.
Stop – full stop! – to appreciate your accomplishments
when they arrive. Too often we are so busy running to the next goal that we
forget to acknowledge our achievements.
Pursue goals so incredibly desirable that accomplishing
the tasks will be all the reward you need. Sure, what you create may benefit
many more people than just you, but the joy should be complete in the
Perhaps today would be a good day
to think about our goals. It’s healthy for you and me to step back from time-to-time
to see if we’ve been busy working toward a goal, or just staying busy.
Reversing course, or charting a completely new direction, is not a failure to
achieve what we want. We are not giving up. We are restating our vision and
reworking the mission and purpose necessary to get us from where we are to
where we want to be.