Have shootings, fake news, a fluctuating economy,
medical issues, or anything else about which you fret left you feeling lost? I
get it. We live in a complicated world and it’s not always easy to be positive,
hopeful, and happy.
But just because something isn’t easy doesn’t mean
we can’t do it. In fact, most of the worthwhile things in life require more
than a little effort. There’s one way we can change our attitude and outlook
that may require a little practice, but it’s not that difficult to do. It only requires
an easy rewording of our questions or our responses.
When faced with a problem or challenge of any kind,
big or small, there’s a go-to term we can all too easily use. Do you know what
The ending changes, but the sentence starts out with,
“I don’t know … “ I-Don’t-Know. And you know what? We mean it when we say it.
We really are a bit lost, bewildered, perhaps guilty about not being able to
response positively to the problems of others, or maybe genuinely confused.
There’s a better way to respond, both to our own
questions and to the queries of others. All we have to do is change, “I don’t
know …” to “I wonder if …”
That’s it. All we have to do is go from being a lost
victim to remembering what it’s like to have childlike wonderment of all things
around us. Children are naturally curious and, until adults teach them to be
so, are trusting of what they see. When situations do not turn out the way they
are expected, children seldom lament repeated about their disappointments. Instead,
they go on to the next event, the next curiosity, then next thing about which
to be surprised and amazed.
As adults we can learn from this. “I don’t know … “
sets us up to lose. We reiterate and re-enforce lack. Conversely, “I wonder if …”
opens us to empowerment and to solution. When we take a moment to step back
from our preconceived ideas we open up to new possibilities and healings of all
kinds. Release not knowing and embrace childlike wonderment.