In my last blog I wrote about accepting people as they want to be. In other words, stop trying to teach the pig to sing – it doesn’t work and it annoys the pig. Please don’t get self-righteous and tell me I’m calling people pigs, although that wouldn’t be an insult anyway. Pigs are perhaps the most sentient animals that we humans eat – enough of a reason not to eat them according to my friends who are vegetarians. But I digress.
I encourage mutually supporting those around us, not pulling or dragging people to their magnificence. If someone in our life is obviously satisfied where s/he is, then who are we to demand otherwise?
The persons in our lives who don’t want to change deserve our acceptance, not our tolerance.
The same, however, is true of us as well. You don’t deserve to be in any situation where you must tolerate anything, unless you’ve decided to be. I tolerate the smell in the bathroom after spending some time in there, but that doesn't mean I have to stay there suffering through the consequences until the odor dissipates! Opening a window, turning on the fan, or using some air freshener can help. That’s exactly what acceptance and unconditional love does in the rest of our lives.
Is there someone in your life that you continue to tolerate? Ask yourself a very simple question: Why?
The answer may surprise you, because it’s going to be one of two things.
1 - Either it’s time to let go of or back off from that relationship; or,
2 - It’s time to stop complaining about it and spending useless hours trying to make someone into something s/he is not.
In other words, the next time someone says to you, “I’m not good enough for you,” do yourself a favor: Believe them.
If we are not going to cut ourselves off from someone then why continue to grumble about our circumstance? As always, when we come from love and compassion with unconditional acceptance the entire landscape will change. We will be happier … and so will our loved one.
In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
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