Stop Trying To Be Yourself

Are you still trying to find your “purpose?” The problem is not finding it. The real challenge is what to do after you figure it out!

I starting teaching a workshop over twenty years ago called, “Discovering Your Bliss.” I was in my Joseph Campbell period, a ministerial student and wild about realizing in my own life what a difference having a vision and mission in life can make.

That afternoon seminar morphed itself into a manual and eventually my most recent book. I still strongly believe that having a vision and mission gives us a firm foundation for happiness and, therefore, success.

But it’s not enough.

As I’m beginning to find out in my own life, it may not even be necessary for everyone. Vision and mission statements are tools; that’s all they are. They aren’t the end-all to all end-alls. What we really need to be happy and succeed in life is already within us.

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We must stop trying to be who we are and start being who we are.

Thanks, a lot, Terry. Fine. What’s THAT supposed to mean, oh great guru of knowledge and wisdom?

(In spite of that sarcasm there, I will respond!)

It means we frequently try too hard to:

  • Be something we’re not;
  • Always strive to please others;
  • Not pleasing ourselves;
  • Sanitize our approach;
  • Worry that we won’t appeal to everyone – NEW FLASH! WE WON’T!
  • Compare our happiness and satisfaction to others;
  • Base our worth on the number of people following our social media accounts; or,
  • Are terrified we’re “not ready.”

Well, pumpkin’ we’re NOT ready for that next big leap to magnificence. Of course we’re not “ready!” If we were we’d have already done what we’re thinking about doing. But right now we are as ready as we ever could be to be ourselves.

Think about it. No one knows you the way you do. If you don’t like something about yourself, change it or figure out why you are being so critical with yourself. If you need help doing that find that professional help.

The key point is to stop trying to be yourself and just start accepting that you can be yourself. You can do so without reservation, approval, permission or apology.

Isn’t it time for us to see who you are? Isn’t it time to move to that next level of expression? It’s inside you, perhaps desperately seeking the manifestation only you can provide. Let it out! Be YOU! WOO-HOO!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Terry Drew Karanen © 2016

Being Centered Through Mindfulness

Do you find yourself becoming increasingly agitated as the United States moves closer to the 2016 Presidential Election? You’re not alone. I’m hearing from people locally, throughout the country, as well as abroad. They are feeling everything from disgust to sincere fear.

This writing is not to affect your vote for one particular candidate. It is, however, using the election, the debates and the misinformation of the media on all candidates as an example of how easily we can become hot and bothered by the opinions of others.2016-presidential-candidates

Being centered – meaning we are calm, confident and secure in life – is not what we are seeing around us with any regularity. That doesn’t mean we have to buy into the terror and the turmoil of the world around us. That goes for the latest office gossip, to family drama, to presidential elections and world crises. But how do we do that?

The Buddhist path has been one to lead us in the practice of mindfulness for thousands of years. And what is mindfulness? In its simplest form it’s to be aware, to be in the moment and is the diametric opposite of multi-tasking. In his book, “Mindful Living:  The art of remembering to remember,” author Dennis Merritt Jones tells us:

“Mindful living is a lifestyle – it is a way of walking a sacred earth, incorporating purpose and an awareness of God’s presence in all we say, think,
and do on our journey of a lifetime.”

We live in an ever-increasingly busy world. However, how busy we want to be is up to us, not the world or society. We have the ability to put down the mobile device during dinner; to choose television programs and films that are uplifting; to insure that we get our information at our pace, not on the news outlets schedule; and, to step back from the bait when those outrageous and annoying postings occur on social media.

Give yourself the gift of creating a centered life through mindfulness in everything you do. Yes, take time to smell the roses. Love yourself enough to enjoy where you are, because like it or not, this moment will never be here again.

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Terry Drew Karanen © 2016