Similar and Different

Have you ever met someone, thought how similar you were, but then discovered some glaringly different beliefs? It can be most unsettling. We think we’re on the same wavelength and suddenly realize this isn’t true at all.

I remember accepting a temporary secretarial position many years ago that required proficiency with the Word and Excel programs. While my abilities were more than sufficient, I was stopped dead in my tracks when I sat down at the Apple computer in front of me. I’m a PC guy and couldn’t even figure out how to turn the darn thing on.

When situations like this occur it can be quite jarring to our sense of peace. But it’s also a great reminder that one of the great constants in the universe is change, as paradoxical as that may be. The question is not so much whether change will occur in our lives, but how we will deal with change when it’s staring us in the face. I was at that temp job for three months and got along smashingly with my new Apple friend!

If everything in our lives were similar or identical it would be pretty boring. Consistency doesn’t have to be sameness. We have evidence in nature of how just different landscapes can be yet all beautiful in their own way.

Perhaps the next time you think one thing is happening only to discover that some very different is occurring you’ll think of this discussion. Take a deep breath and relax into the change that’s happening. Even in the differences, what can you find that is similar?

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Why Bother?

Ever ask yourself that question? Perhaps you’ve tried relationship after relationship, but nothing seems to have any longevity. Maybe you’ve tried for years to please a relative or mate without success. You may have some examples of your own.

It can seem so hopeless, so frustrating.Blog

Why bother? Why bother, indeed!

I’ll tell you why. Because you matter. You deserve to be magnificent. You deserve to have fulfilling relationships, a great career or retirement pursuits, exceptional health and all the money you can spend, share and save.

And that’s why we bother. We bother to find out what is really motivating us to do the things we do. Our actions, goals and desire must not be based solely or primarily on pleasing others. We must decide what our purpose is in life, what enriches our soul and tickles our fancy.

If we can do that we won’t find ourselves frustrated by the actions or lack of actions of others. While we’re bothering to be our brilliant, unique selves, we’ll draw those people, places and things into our sphere for which we’ve been searching. We’ll be there not only to love and support them, but also to enjoy the pleasure of being loved, supported and enriched by their unique gifts as well.

Are you willing to bother with YOUR happiness as much as you may be doing for others? Give it some thought!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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The Small Stuff

It’s the little things that make a difference in our lives. We have the choice whether seemingly insignificant events are going to produce happiness, sorrow, regret or gratitude, among many other emotions. In fact, it’s the small stuff that can actually be a life saver for us.

In Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's, A Study in Scarlet, Sherlock Holmes’ sidekick, Dr. Watson is credited with writing this small piece of wisdom:

No man burdens his mind with small matters unless he has some very good reason for doing so.

If you are willing to get by the masculine noun writing style of the day this quote bears a tremendous message. Throughout the day we are bombarded with information. It’s not just what we read on social media or hear on the news. It’s far more subtle, yet infinitely more important.

The small stuff about which the good doctor speaks is our power of observation. It’s being open to noticing the energy of a person we meet; a split second before she stood tall and smiled she was slightly slumped, her eyes gray with disappointment, or perhaps despondency. Might we be a tad more loving and considerate if we had taken the time to be more observant?Blog

We may be lamenting the problems in the world, of which we are many, yet if we open to being more aware of our surroundings we notice one driver signally for another to go ahead in an act of courtesy; an elderly woman holding the door for a young father with three young children in tow, giving the guy just what he needs not to feel so alone; or, the cat who insists on us taking the time to pet her, just when we need to stop the craziness of the day.

It can also be hearing something intriguing or helpful and saying, “That’s really interesting! I’m going to remember that when I need it,” instead of, “I wish I could remember stuff like this, but I’m so forgetful.”

Are we are willing to believe there is only One Divine Consciousness with which we are all connected? If so, we understand that by training ourselves to believe in Divine Timing we’ll know that all knowledge is ours to have when it’s needed.

What will you observe today that you’ll recall in the future? Are you willing to enjoy the day, enjoying all you observe, and without rushing through it just to get to the end? I’d love to know what you experience today!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Casting Stones in Judgment

How do you feel when someone judges you unfairly? Probably pretty lousy, or perhaps very angry. It might make you sad because the opinions of others can feel so undeserved and wrong.

Yet, we all judge. We judge ourselves most severely, but we don’t hesitate to make determinations about others throughout the day that may or may not be based in truth. Jesus said to judgmental people of his day wanting to stone an adulteress that the person who was sinless should be casting the first stones.

Just look how we judge today! Take the hajib head scarf that is worn by Muslim women. Modern society often sees that as a means of suppressing women and their rights. Some have protested loudly to stop this custom. But that’s not at all how many of the women who wear them feel! To them it’s no more an issue than a Jew wearing a kippahBlog0808 (yarmulke) or the Latin American woman who covers her head with a lace mantilla before entering the church for Mass. They all represent devotion to faith, a sign of reverence.

Can such a practice be misused? Of course. Anything can. But we can also easily take something about which we know little and judge it severely. Consider the religion of Islam, for example. We could ask people who actually practice the faith or research for ourselves from accurate, reliable sources what modern-day Muslims in our country believe overall.

Instead, far too many of us decide to listen to propaganda via the news media, much of which is colored with bias, slant and prejudice fueled by a political agenda designed to divide and conquer. Some who cast the largest stones at Muslims might be quite shocked to find out that Catholics are the only ones to practice a “cafeteria-style” faith in this country or around the world.

Islamic practices today can be as different from the fundamentalists’ interpretation of the Qur’an as Christian daily practices are from the Bible. Whether we think all Catholics disapprove of abortion under any circumstance or are opposed to same sex marriage, or whether we have decided in advance what any person, culture, ethnic background or religion is all about, we’d all do well to take a step back and seek the truth.

We can ask ourselves, Do the assumed beliefs about my faith, sexual orientation, lifestyle or race really reflect accurately who I am? Would I want others to judge me on popular opinion instead of who I am? Am I seeking to understand or just using my own bias and prejudice to justify the promotion of hate instead of love?

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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The Blessing of Limitations

Recently I’ve written about having problems as part of experiencing our humanity. I’ve also brought up using disempowerment as a tool of empowering our lives.

Both of these topics have resulted in numerous emails or comments on social media. Most have applauded my stand, but there are a couple of people (in the most severe of criticisms) who think I have no right to be a minister, let alone one who is a religious scientist.

The ones who are fighting about ideas and accusing me in their comments are of no surprise in a world that is tenaciously holding on to ideas that no longer serve our species. The same fear we see today being used to divide our nation and world is the same unnecessary reaction some people may experience to words or ideas held sacrosanct, even though everyone agree “sumpin’ jus’ ain’t right.”

So, in keeping with speaking my mind – even if it stirs the pot – I offer you this week’s blog. Enjoy … or not … but if nothing else I hope it causes you to think about the topic in a new, refreshing and healing way!

With Love,
Terry

The Blessing of Limitations

Have you considered seeming limitations in your life as blessings? You may, like I have in the past, seen anything limiting in my life as something to be overcome or dissolved. Is there another way to view limitations?

While you may at first be unwilling to admit it – as was I! – limitations can show up looking like our best friend. How? The limitations to which we give power enable us to get out of an awful lot of situations without question. Instead of having the clarity to say that we don’t want to do something we conveniently find a limitation that we expect to go unchallenged.

“I’d LOVE to go with you,” we convincingly lie, having absolutely no desire to attend the six-hour Mahler marathon, “But you know I have my sick father to care for.” (We leave out the part about having on-call caregivers available to watch dad.)

“That opportunity sounds AMAZING,” we gush, “But the way my arthritis is acting up I’m sure I can’t. You know how it is to be getting old.” (We neglect to mention how much fun attending our granddaughter’s hip hop class was and dancing all afternoon with her.)GO38

Does citing these limitations sound more like excuses? They should. That’s exactly what they are. But the way we use these kinds of excuses (costumed to look like irrefutable reasons), pretty much ends any further discussion. People are less inclined to challenge someone who has decided to live in a state of self-imposed victimization. Why, if we’re lucky, we might even garner a bit of pity in the process. Bonus points!

NOT!

We are better than this. We don’t have to use perceived limitations as excuses to avoid telling the truth. We can empower ourselves by having the hutzpah to tell it like it is for us with love and compassion for the other person.

So does limitation have a place in our lives, especially if we are of the mind that we are unlimited spirit beings having a spiritual experience in a human body? I believe they do! Entrepreneur, writer, philanthropist and unshakable optimist, Marie Forleo, tells us how and why:

Limited choices in your day can lead to limitless freedom in your life.

Take this sage advice into your day by using it to map out your game plan for tomorrow. If we avoid focusing on our true purpose we will easily get bogged down in the many choices being thrust upon us by social media, well-meaning friends and what we perceive to be societal obligations.

Start today using limitations in a positive, productive way, not to stop you from doing anything, but to empower you by freeing up time and energy. Then you’ll be more available to do the very things you came here to planet Earth to share with us!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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