Can we have everything we want? I’ve often said that we can have everything we want, but we just can’t have it all at the same time. That seemed logical until recently.
Turns out I’ve wrong all along.
Mike Dooley of tut.com says the correct answer is, “Absolutely not!” He gives us “[three] areas in life that success can never be assured.” He calls this the “Bermuda Triangle of heartbreak and disappointment.
1. Insisting that specific people behave in specific ways
2. Attaching to unimportant details
3. Messing with the “cursed hows”
Decades ago the founder of the Science of Mind philosophy, Dr. Ernest Holmes, was asked to write out his basic beliefs. It showed just how far he thought we could affect change in our lives. One of the things he said was that we believe in the “control of conditions through the power of this Mind.”
Those conditions, however, don’t include controlling the actions of others. Why would we want to control other people anyway? Is it because we think we know better than our friend does? How blatantly arrogant of us! Half the time some of us – or anyone of us on some days! – don’t know what we want, let alone what should be good for other people.
Our ego can get in the way of our hopes, dreams, goals and vision by deciding not only what we want, but when the manifestation of our desires must occur. Again, pure arrogance on our part. How dare we say we rely on God or universal wisdom to produce the results we desire and then mess with the perfection that is unfolding in our lives!
Finally, as Dooley says, those “cursed hows.” The how is never our job. Yes, we can force the issue, but we are much better off preparing the place for our desires rather than wasting time deciding who should be our next partner or how we are going to get rid of the boss so we can have her job.
There are many things we can do to manifest the life we want or maintain and grow the life we have. One of those things is to make sure that we are acting in alignment with the goals we’ve set for ourselves. We can also enlist the help of others who we know we can trust to support us along the way.
It’s a great idea to step back from the busy-ness of our lives every so often just to obtain an overall picture of where we are. In the process, perhaps we’ll see that the person we thought we needed or wanted isn’t really necessary to the end result. We might become willing to let go of the control of every detail. And, we might even decide to stop figuring out the how.
I don’t know about you, but doing that would definitely uncomplicated several areas of my life! What about you? What’s your challenge in this regard? Share your thoughts with us below and allow our cyber community to work together in support of one another.
In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,