Affirming Our Good

Do you use affirmations? Or, do you understand what they are and how they work?

The use of affirmations – short, meaningful, positive statements to focus our minds on a goal or desire – is taught widely. Louise Hay, the well-known New Thought minister and healing-focus writer, made affirmations an everyday word in 1984 when she released her classic book, “You Can Heal Your Life.”

But do affirmations really work? Many people in my field would probably say, “YES!” with great enthusiasm. I have a one-word answer as well.


Will our car get us to the store? Maybe, if we take it out of the garage and the tank has gas in it. Will the bank honor the debit card we use when we get there? Probably, as long as we have money in our account.

Affirmations, like many other things in our lives, offer a conditional guarantee. They work, but only if we use them the right way.

Affirmative statements they are not the genie in the bottle that magically manifests our desire. Rather, they are a mechanical way to reprogram our thinking away from the mind affirmations-vidya-sury-4goblins in our head who tell us we can’t have what we want. Affirmations provide the mental nutrients for the fertile soil in our minds into which we plant a seed that, if nurtured regularly, will grow into the desire we seek.

Above all else, we must believe that what we say is possible. Ernest Holmes wrote, “I believe that every affirmation I make will immediately take effect in my life. I fill every statement with joy; therefore, I expect joyful happenings.”

This is the key to using affirmations in our life. We can use them for our health, relationships, career/full self-express and prosperity. There is really no limit to the way we can wise use this spiritual tool.affirmation-deserve-success

Do you have an ongoing issue that you’d like to move through and beyond? Consider using powerful and focused affirmative statements that mean something to you.* Align your thoughts with your desires. Then allow Spirit to move through you for your highest and greatest good.

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,


* For more information about how to use affirmations effectively, see pages 56-57 in my book, “How to Find Your Vision and Get a Life!


Getting Everything We Want

Can we have everything we want? I’ve often said that we can have everything we want, but we just can’t have it all at the same time. That seemed logical until recently.

Turns out I’ve wrong all along.Multi-Armed-Flight-Attendant-75476

Mike Dooley of says the correct answer is, “Absolutely not!” He gives us “[three] areas in life that success can never be assured.” He calls this the "Bermuda Triangle of heartbreak and disappointment.

1. Insisting that specific people behave in specific ways
2. Attaching to unimportant details
3. Messing with the “cursed hows”

Decades ago the founder of the Science of Mind philosophy, Dr. Ernest Holmes, was asked to write out his basic beliefs. It showed just how far he thought we could affect change in our lives. One of the things he said was that we believe in the “control of conditions through the power of this Mind.”

Those conditions, however, don’t include controlling the actions of others. Why would we want to control other people anyway? Is it because we think we know better than our friend does? How blatantly arrogant of us! Half the time some of us – or anyone of us on some days! – don’t know what we want, let alone what should be good for other people.

Our ego can get in the way of our hopes, dreams, goals and vision by deciding not only what we want, but when the manifestation of our desires must occur. Again, pure arrogance on our part. How dare we say we rely on God or universal wisdom to produce the results we desire and then mess with the perfection that is unfolding in our lives!

Finally, as Dooley says, those “cursed hows.” The how is never our job. Yes, we can force the issue, but we are much better off preparing the place for our desires rather than wasting time deciding who should be our next partner or how we are going to get rid of the boss so we can have her job.

There are many things we can do to manifest the life we want or maintain and grow the life we have. One of those things is to make sure that we are acting in alignment with the goals we’ve set for ourselves. We can also enlist the help of others who we know we can trust to support us along the way.

It’s a great idea to step back from the busy-ness of our lives every so often just to obtain an overall picture of where we are. In the process, perhaps we’ll see that the person we thought we needed or wanted isn’t really necessary to the end result. We might become willing to let go of the control of every detail. And, we might even decide to stop figuring out the how.

I don’t know about you, but doing that would definitely uncomplicated several areas of my life! What about you? What’s your challenge in this regard? Share your thoughts with us below and allow our cyber community to work together in support of one another.

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,


Being Happy

Do you want to be happy? The answer to that probably seems like a no-brainer, but what will it take for that to be a regular occurrence in your life if it isn’t already?

Many people think that money will make them happy. For others it’s the perfect dream mate. Still others want material possessions.

It’s been said repeatedly that money can’t buy happiness, though in some sections of town it can be purchased by the hour, or so I’m told. Money can make us more mobile, but possessing it can also mean we can fear losing it. The same is true for possessions, for everything material changes over time. The new car smell eventually fades.

Have you pined for the perfect man or woman in your life? What specifically is that perfection in someone else that you seek? A good question we can ask ourselves is, Are we being realistic about this perfect person? Can s/he really exist? Perhaps, but if lusting after that nebulous goal has been going on for years then there may be a bigger problem.

That problem is that we don’t really want what we say we want. Huh? It’s true. It’s easier to bitch about what we don’t have than to do what is necessary to have the life we want. Our egos love our “Story.” You know, the tale we repeatedly pull out in conversations that proves we can’t what we claim we want. Our happiness is right up there at the top of the list.

No thing and no one will secure the happiness we seek. In his essays Michel de Montaigne wrote, “Be a crowd unto thyself.” The happiness for which we strive must come from within. Here’s a few thoughts that can help on that path.

  • Know who you are, not what others want you to be.
  • Release fear and embrace faith.
  • Recognize that nothing but change is constant.

One other way to be happy is to stop being miserable. Sure, we all have challenges, problems and occasionally an earth-shattering event that can put us off balance. By staying in gratitude for our blessings and knowing our happiness is assured we will not only change our attitude, but will also draw like-minded people to us.

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In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,