Hurry Up and Wait

What do you do when you can’t do anything about an uncomfortable situation? As I am writing this I am sitting in an airport terminal without electricity and that includes air conditioning. In addition, the airline’s computer systems have gone down in three major cities, thereby causing a stoppage of all flights in the majority of their system.

Passengers are looking at two-to-four hour delays and missed connections, resulting in cancelled plans. Everyone wants answers, but no one has any to give. What do you do?

Some people are screaming at the agents who, of course, have no access to any information since there is no electricity to power the computers. Others are lamenting the situation, 20150917_104530 (2)since “this happens every time I fly.” A few are sitting quietly, reading materials they’ve thought ahead to bring with them, catching up on email or taking the opportunity for a nap.

Each and every day we are faced with delays and situations not to our liking. The line at the grocery store takes longer than we want. We are stuck on hold when speaking to a customer service rep. Or, the answers we await from loved ones are not forthcoming.

How we choose to act in situations now affects how our experience later. As I sit in this airport terminal I can almost see the blood pressure and anxiety level rising in people around me. But, I can also see people who are calm, at peace and finding something to enjoy in the moment.

Some people believe that denying the unpleasantries of life will somehow make them go away. Ernest Holmes didn’t believe that. He said,

It’s silly, to me, for people to say that sickness isn’t sickness – of course it is; or poverty isn’t poverty – of course it is. But that doesn’t mean it has to be.

We have freedom of choice, but not of consequence. The freedom to become upset and angry will inevitably lead to making our circumstances more unpleasant for us and everyone around us. Conversely, going with the flow and making the best of an uncomfortable situation could open doors to us we might never have imagined.

The choice, of course, is ours. What will you choose? Let me know in the comments below – I have to board the plane!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,



Where Do You Draw the Line?

Do you like surprises? Your answer probably depends on what the surprise would be. I was recently someone’s “surprise” and she was not pleased at all!

When the weather permits I read my spiritual materials and have my morning meditation outside. That was the case last week. I had just finished my meditation when I opened my eyes to find myself staring at a little chipmunk who’d just run out from under the chipmunk hydrangea. She was apparently quite shocked to find me in her way, stopped mid-path, darted across the patio in the opposite direction and down the hole into her den. I found it quite amusing, but then I think chipmunks are quite cute.

Groundhogs, however, don’t fit in the category of cute. An adolescent groundhog decided to make her den under our deck. I’ve seen what kind of destruction her species can do to structures, so she has been humanely relocated to an undisclosed, wooded area near a remote cornfield in Mechanicsburg, PA.

Both the chipmunk and the groundhog are wild, furry and burrowers. So what’s the groundhog2difference? We drew the line at the ground hog and put her into our “varmint relocation program” because her continued residence here was leading to destruction of our property. It got me thinking were it is I draw the line in other areas of my life.

I suppose it boils down to what we are willing to put up with in our lives. The chipmunk, at least for the present, appears harmless, but the groundhog is not. We’ve put up with the groundhog for a while, but in recently re-painting the deck I was able to find just how entrenched she’d become. Not pretty.

Our lives can be that way, too. We can put up with the most annoying situations. We may just be too lazy to do anything about them. We may not want to upset others. But then something happens and we decide enough is enough. We get sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Ridding ourselves of the toxic people and unhealthy situations in our lives is not nearly as easy as baiting a trap with cantaloupe and relocating a furry animal. I invite you to take a moment or two today to see if you have any annoying “groundhog” situations in your life. Have you gotten to that point of “enough is enough?” Are you ready to rid yourself of what no longer serves you? If so, decide today how to lovingly change that situation with integrity. It’s time, don’t you think?

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,


Being For Something

Are you against rape, child abuse and racism? I wouldn’t be surprised to hear that you are. None of these three issues in society today, or the many more you might think of, are anything we want to see more of.

Ernest Holmes taught us that our words have an impact on our present and future. Why is that? It’s because our words, verbal or written, give physical, corporeal form to our thoughts. Our thoughts produce feelings and those emotional responses lead to action or reaction.

It could be that it’s easier to be against what appears evil in the world. The reason I say that is that to do something about the situation would require us to have a plan of action or proposed solution. That’s where it gets sticky. We are outraged by injustice, yet have no faith that change can occur.

The Christian scriptures say in Hebrews 11:1 that “Faith is the assured expectations of things hoped for, the reality not yet beheld.” We must have faith in any outcome if we are to be assured of success. Even if we can’t see our way or society’s way out of inconceivable problems, we must believe that an answer exists.

Another basic tenet of the New Thought movement is that what we focus on increases. This is seen repeated in support groups that are more interested in bemoaning the disease or condition than moving through and beyond the problem. It is our focus that is the answers to the injustices we see in the world and in our lives.

In her recent blog, “Always Be For Something:  Putting Power In Perspective,” Madisyn Taylor give us an even more basic reason. Shereminds us that,

It takes much less energy to be FOR something
rather than against something.

The next time you are asked to be against a social issue, take a moment to consider what it really is you are being asked to do. Are you being asked to fight against the issue, thereby assuming there must be a confrontation? Taking the examples at the beginning of this blog, could you advocate, personally or use your dollars, FOR empowerment and respect for women? Or, FOR the empowerment and safety of children? Or, FOR a society that can not only recognize diversity, but celebrate it?

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,


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