Have You Suspended Your Belief in Success?

Five Keys to Create the Life You Want

Not long ago I mentioned a “pegacorn” to a friend.

“Huh?” was the inevitable response. This exclamation, interestingly enough, came from someone who should, by now, be far from shocked, surprised, or dismayed when I talk about creatures or subjects not easily found on the first page above the fold of the Wall Street Journal.

“A pegcorn,” I responded. “It comes from the union of a pegasus and a unicorn. The offspring of a divine winged stallion, and the legendary equine with one, pointed, spiraling horn proceeding from its forehead, usually only ridden by a vestal virgin, which are nearly extinct … the virgins, I mean, not the unicorns.”

“You’re just making that up,” replied my little Doubting Thomas. “There’s no such thing as a ‘pegacorn.’ It’s a myth.”

At this point I answered with a respectful, “Yes, Dear.” But, I was absolutely gleeful as I was delighted that, for just a split second, my friend had suspended disbelief in two other creatures not often seen, while denying a third! (Frankly, I nearly fell off my unicorn, which is proof that gay men and well as vestal virgins may ride them.)

Kidding aside, this little exchange got me to thinking about how we often stumble when we are right at the brink of a breakthrough or major event while on the way to our dreams, goals, and vision. How often do we forget about our successes of the past and focus on what we think can’t happen next?

There are five keys to success, which I call the “Five P’s,” since each step begins with the letter “P:”

Possibility

Power

Passion

Practice

Purpose

Over the next six weeks I’ll be writing about each of these, plus a bonus idea I hope you’ll find useful. In the meantime this week, give yourself the gift of time to ponder these ideas:

What do I believe today about my life that I didn’t (or couldn’t) just a few years ago?

What do I believe is currently impossible for my success?

Is that true? And, how do I know it’s true?

How would my life be different if it wasn’t true?

Have fun with this! See you next week when we open up to the possibility of success. You deserve to have a life worth living!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Stop Tolerating Your Life!

In my last blog I wrote about accepting people as they want to be. In other words, stop trying to teach the pig to sing – it doesn’t work and it annoys the pig. Please don’t get self-righteous and tell me I’m calling people pigs, although that wouldn’t be an insult anyway. Pigs are perhaps the most sentient animals that we humans eat – enough of a reason not to eat them according to my friends who are vegetarians. But I digress.

I encourage mutually supporting those around us, not pulling or dragging people to their magnificence. If someone in our life is obviously satisfied where s/he is, then who are we to demand otherwise?

The persons in our lives who don’t want to change deserve our acceptance, not our tolerance.

The same, however, is true of us as well. You don’t deserve to be in any situation where you must tolerate anything, unless you’ve decided to be. I tolerate the smell in the bathroom after spending some time in there, but that doesn't mean I have to stay there suffering through the consequences until the odor dissipates! Opening a window, turning on the fan, or using some air freshener can help. That’s exactly what acceptance and unconditional love does in the rest of our lives.

Is there someone in your life that you continue to tolerate? Ask yourself a very simple question:  Why?

The answer may surprise you, because it’s going to be one of two things.

1 - Either it’s time to let go of or back off from that relationship; or,

2 - It’s time to stop complaining about it and spending useless hours trying to make someone into something s/he is not.

In other words, the next time someone says to you, “I’m not good enough for you,” do yourself a favor:  Believe them.

If we are not going to cut ourselves off from someone then why continue to grumble about our circumstance? As always, when we come from love and compassion with unconditional acceptance the entire landscape will change. We will be happier … and so will our loved one.

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Changing Others

“Just who do you think you are to tell God what to do?!?”

That’s the response I got from a spiritual counselor years ago when I was detailing to her all the ways my lover at the time needed to change to have the life he deserved. “What makes you think what he’s going through isn’t allowing him to grow in ways you can’t imagine?”

Dang. I just wanted her agreement to help me help him get off his butt and get a job. Sheesh! That’s when I coined this quote that has become well-known in my professional life:

You cannot have a relationship with someone's potential.

If only my life didn’t reflect my inability to comprehend, apply, and appreciate those words over the years, particularly since I’m the one who said it. Most annoying!

“If only she'd stop drinking.”

“If only he'd stop smoking.”

“If only my kids would apply themselves.” If only ...

If only we could let the people around us be who they are and love them unconditionally like we often say we do! Yes, yes, I know. You only want them to change or realize their potential because they will be happier, more productive and achieve greater fulfillment in life.

Really?

We may couch our need to change others with reasons such as I just mentioned. But more often than not we find the actions (or the lack of actions) of others, particularly those people closest to us, to be embarrassing, infuriating, or completely unacceptable to our better judgment. Well, ain’t that just too bad!

There’s also another egoistic benefit of deciding what others should do:  If we’re fixing others then our time is usually too occupied to take care of our own lives.

If we see someone about to be hit by a bus we should probably intervene. Just seems like the right thing to do, right? But if s/he wants to keep smoking, eat unhealthy, fattening food, or stay in a relationship that’s going nowhere, what business is it of ours? Here’s a thought:

Instead of trying to change others into what we think they should be, how about if we live the life WE were meant to live and be the example for others to consider for themselves?

It was a wise man who said people don’t want to hear a sermon. They want to see results. What if we stopped preaching to our loved ones and friends about how they should change? What if we were willing to have our own life show them what it means to be magnificent?

There’s wisdom in this quote:

Preach at all times.
Use words only when necessary.

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Going to Hell?

One Moment. Recalculating.

Dontcha love it when your GPS app catches that you’ve made a wrong turn and immediately recalculates your direction to get you back on the right track? Dontcha wish life was that way?

It is! Spiritual mind treatment, or affirmative prayer, is like a spiritual GPS system. It immediately fixes our stinkin’ thinkin’ and gets us back on track.

For example …

I hope to God (no pun intended) that the spiritual community you grew up in didn’t teach you being poor was a sign of being pious. Sadly, that’s exactly what might have been drilled into you.

There’s a historical basis to why this idea is still prevalent. It goes back to the Dark Ages. The landholders and the Church figured out how to get rich while keeping the peasants quiet. The uneducated masses paid high tax to the royals to keep them safe in this life. The Church, conversely, fleeced them just as royally with the promise of a “greater later.”

There’s nothing wrong with having possessions, accumulating wealth, or living better than paycheck-to-paycheck. Here’s what Ernest Holmes said about this in his writing, “The Great Surrender:”

So even in teaching us that we must surrender something, [Jesus] he was not telling us that we should live in poverty or limitation.

No. He was not. Jesus the Great Teacher taught his followers to ask and it would be given to them; to seek and they would find it; and, to knock and the closed doors would be opened to them. Ask – Seek – Knock. In English the first three letters of those words spell, “ASK.”

If you are Christian or Jewish the holy books in which you believe are filled with such admonition. One scripture in the Hebrew Scriptures speaks of God telling his chosen people that if they would just ask it would be given to them, pressed down, and over-flowing.

Is that the Divine Presence in which you believe? I hope so. We live in an abundant, prosperous universe, or as New Thought teacher Emma Curtis Hopkins once wrote, “There’s good out there and I ought to have it.”

True, there is plenty of lack all around and poverty that is unimaginable to most of the people reading this blog. However, that doesn’t mean the existence or acknowledgment of a problem has to mean we accept it as the Truth.

No matter where you land on the spectrum of prosperity there are two things that will assure your current and future success, as well as bring you peace of mind. Be grateful, first, for everything you have. Second, stop looking at what you don’t have (or what others do), and start where you’re at to build the life you want.

Need help? Contact me and we’ll treat about it – meaning we’ll acknowledge whatever is going on and know the Truth about it through spiritual mind treatment. It’s the easiest way I know for getting out of hell and back to heaven.

You’ve tried hell. Ready for something a little more pleasant?

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Are We “Wasting” Time?

How to Use Time Wisely to Create Fulfillment

Have you ever heard someone say they wished they had the time to learn a new language, clean out the garage, or meditate regularly? My Grandma Esther would have said, “If wishes were horses all beggars would ride.”

We live in a driven, goal-oriented world. Being focused on our goals and mindful of our activities is a good thing; at least it is most of the time. This drive can have the same devastating effect on us as driving a car too far, too long, and at too fast a speed – eventual and unavoidable breakdown.

No one on the planet has any more time than anyone else. We all have 24 hours per day. How we use that time is up to us. Conflict occurs when we feel obligated to do something, or allow guilt to be the driving force in deciding whether or not to do something or go somewhere.

What this leads to is feeling like every minute of every day has to be focused on one thing or another in a hectic fashion. True, we may accomplish many things. But we may also find ourselves busy being busy rather than making progress toward our dreams, goals, and vision. Here’s one very good piece of advice in this regard:

Remember, you don’t have to be doing something “constructive” to contribute – the vibration of your contented energy is a blessing.

Rev. Jane Beach

Like everything in life, what we do, when we do it, and with whom we do it is ultimately up to us. We will only depress ourselves if we deride our decisions to watch a TV program just for fun, go to a movie, or just have a totally un-planned day. We need downtime. We need to recharge our batteries – mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually, and spiritually.

It’s when we intentionally step back from our projects and take a breath that a breakthrough can occur with renewed energy to continue forward.

It all comes back to balance. It requires we practice one of the most difficult habits around:  We have to make a decision of what’s most important to us. If learning a foreign language is your goal you can easily do that in just 30-minutes per day. True, you might have to give up a sitcom, or play the CDs/MP4s in your car instead of listening to the news for a few weeks, but you can do it.

What have you been bitching about for far too long that you’ve wanted to do, but “don’t have the time?” Do yourself a favor. Do it. Or, if you really aren’t going to do it, then do yourself and everyone around you and stop bitching about it.

The stories we keep telling ourselves about why we can’t have or do something are only affirmations of the negative energy we seem to hold onto. We all have them in some area. Is today the day you could do a little spiritual/psychic self-surgery to eliminate yet another excuse for being the magnificent creature you are?

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Are You a Clickabator?

Self-Abuse in the 21st Century

Do you feel stressed out? Do you feel like there’s too much to do and too little time in which to do it?

If so, you’re not alone. I’ve written in the past about our increasing need to stay connected with everything and everyone one 24/7/365. It’s exhausting! So I came up with a new way of expressing it.

Clickabation

It came to me the other day when I remembered the term, “Googlebation.” Have you heard of that? Googlebating is when we Google ourselves. It’s a good idea to do that from time-to-time. You might be surprised with what you’ll find.

I realized that I’m guilty of “clickabating,” though that might be “tapabating” or “swipabating” if you spend more time on Tinder, Grindr, or Match.com than you do on YouTube or NPR news. It could be considered Internet self abuse.

What over-clicking, -tapping, and -swiping is doing is ramping up the need for more and more. It’s cocaine for our fingertips, but doesn’t do our brain any good at all. Like that other kind of abuse, it seldom satisfies, often leaves us empty for what we really want, and makes us crave for our next fix.

Take the time to think about what your fingers are doing, where they are leading you, and how that next site or profile will either enhance your life, or leave you drained and empty. It’s all about choices, dearie!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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You Ain’t For Everyone

Being Boldly NOT for Everyone

Are you comfortable in your own skin? Though they might not admit it, I’m sure you can think of someone in your life who thinks they are just fine, but their actions prove otherwise.

In fact, could that be you? It’s perfectly normal to second guess ourselves from time-to-time. We think, Should I really have said that? Or, Should I have thought twice before doing that?

Entrepreneurs and just about everyone else need to understand very clearly that they are not going to please everyone. We are just not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. For example, I have one particular critic that continues to chide me for the using contractions in my writing. She feels it’s unprofessional. (I’m still trying to get her to understand the difference between blogging and writing for an academic journal!)

More than one time I’ve been chastised – once quite publicly – because I swear occasionally in writing. They obviously don’t know me personally because I can assure you it happens a hellava lot more in person.

For the contraction issue, when I use or don’t use contractions in published writings depends on the intent of the contents, and to whom I’m writing. As far as the limited use of profanity, I quote Bette Midler, who had a perfect line for that. I’ll refrain from printing it here. Suffice it to say my mother would use both my first and middle name to show her dislike!

You are who you are. Accept and work with it. We don’t have to annoy people or swear just to make people raise their eyebrows, in other words, just for the effect of being outrageous. But God (Spirit, Higher Power, Universal Intelligence, whatever!) gets to express Itself uniquely through you – don’t let us miss out! Go forth boldly as you – which is NOT going to be for everyone. And you know what? That’s friggin’ perfect.

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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Hurry Up and Wait!

Long-term Results in an Instantaneous World

Can you believe how impatient we’ve become? I just made myself a cup of hot chocolate, with miniature marshmallows, of course. No, I didn’t heat the milk in a saucepan over the stove. I stuck it in the microwave.

Less than two minutes later I’m thinking, What’s taking it so long to get hot?

Not too many years ago I would have needed a block of chocolate to shave off; melted the chocolate over a low heat; and, then gently added the milk while stirring continuously for several minutes.

Young people growing up today have no concept of life without a microwave; phones that were only in one room and didn’t leave the house; long-distance and international calls that went over cables, not the Internet, and cost a fortune; or, banking that had to be done only in person. Times have changed!

And yet, we can become so invested in instantaneous gratification that we forget some things still take time. (Take it from a gardener – I know!) Are there areas of your life that are getting you anxious because you’re not seeing the results you want? Here’s what Robert Louis Stevenson wrote about that:

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.

One trick that we can all employ is to enjoy the moment, as well as making sure what we are doing in that moment is what we want to do. If we are working in a place that we hate; if we are living in a home we can stand; or, if we are in a relationship that’s over-stayed its welcome, then it’s hard to enjoy the moment.

To create a life worth living we must focus on what we want, not what we don’t want. We do this by planting seeds now that will grow into the results we want to reap. Consider your thoughts right now. Are they in line with want you want?

If so, plant those seeds, nurture them, and enjoy the harvest when it arrives. If not, it may be time to change your thinking to change your life – both for now and the future!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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How Successful Do You Want to Be?

I Believe In You

Do you believe in yourself? I mean, do you trust your decisions, and feel that you have control of your direction in life?

It’s not wrong to doubt ourselves. In fact, self-doubt can work to our benefit by exposing attitudes we still have that no longer serve us.

Admitting we don’t have the knowledge or skills required for a new career we want can make us decide to go back to school. Acknowledging we can’t do everything alone opens a door inviting others to help us.

But if we don’t have at least some trust in our own abilities, success can elude us. Norman Vincent Peale, the well-known author of “The Power of Positive Thinking,” said it this way:

When people believe in themselves, they have the first secret of success.

One major point of encouragement we can give ourselves is that we are never alone. We are all part of, or rather a unique expression of, a power that is greater than us. One energy flows through everything seen and unseen; it runs through our every cell in our body.

This power comes with the knowledge, understanding, and wisdom of universal consciousness. It’s truly the biggest, invisible library we can imagine, gathering together the history and information of the cosmos through all time.

The beloved religious science practitioner and pastoral care minister, the Rev. Dr. Juanita Dunn, used to say to me, “Within you, dear child, is the Knower that knows. You do not have to have the answers. Just believe that the Knower does.”

You answers are within you. When we feel that we “don’t know what we want” we can remind ourselves that if we don’t know then who would? We get to chart our course. Nothing is predestined; and, any decisions we find that haven’t panned out the way we expected can be altered. We can almost always “choose again.”

Choose wisely. Know that you have within you the power to change whatever your circumstance is should you desire to do so. The power of decisions in the past has resulted in our present. If it’s not to our liking, change it. Believe in yourself. Believe you have the power within you to affect change in your life.

I believe in you! You can do it! I’m just amazed at how friggin’ fantastic you look doing it!

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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It’s Time to Take Action

What’s Stopping You From Being Magnificent?

Last week ago, a group of teenagers in Florida decided to take on the federal government, lawmakers – Republican and Democrats, alike – the judicial system, the President of the United States and the National Rifle Association.

It took courageous, pissed off high school students with little or no prior experience in activism or politics to be the ones who finally stood up and took action that’s already making a difference. They’re articulate, focused, and reasonable in their approach.

What will it take for you to move forward in your own life? Hopefully it’s not going to take a tragedy like these young people experienced to motivate you. But, there’s something you want to do that you’re not doing. There may be somewhere you want to go, or someone you want to get to know better. What’s stopping you?

It takes a great deal of strength, a great deal of power, to move on in the face of fear and uncertainty. Moving on to a new job, a new city, a new relationship or a new way of life is a big step. It can be a simple step to take, though not necessarily easy. It may be exactly what you want to do and know you must do. It may also be a step for which you have little or no support from the others closest to you.

At this time it’s as if we’re standing at the edge of the Olympic ice rink. We know we must step onto the ice, hear the applause, and do the particular sequence of twists, jumps, and turns we have practiced over and over again for years. Only this time, it’s the Olympics.

Our personal reputation as an athlete, our country’s pride, our family’s years of sacrifice, and perhaps our future in this profession is riding on the next three minutes. We can skate onto the ice, confident in our training, or we can turn, walk backstage, giving into the fear.

Fear is something to which most people give a lot of power. It appears that fear stops us from going forward. We allow it to paralyze us in our tracks. Fear, in and of itself, has no power. It only has as much power as we give it. Most of the time we not only give it the power, we steal power from other areas of our life and fuel the fear.

Change is necessary. Fear is one of the most powerful factors we allow to keep us from changing. Fear does not stop us. We allow fear to stop us. People fear change because even if the situation in which we find ourselves is far from ideal, at least it is familiar.

My Grandma Esther used to say that it was like being up to your neck in horse manure. Eventually you get used to the smell and at least it is warm. The warmth of even the worst relationship or difficult job is that it is familiar. That familiarity is a sense of comfort to us even though it seems to run contrary to any logic given the circumstances. Here is how Ernest Holmes defined fear in his book, The Science of Mind (1938, page 156):

Fear [is]… nothing more [or] less than the negative use of faith … faith misplaced.

Faith misplaced – we have faith that something is going to go wrong. With that attitude something probably will go wrong or we will make ourselves sick in the process. In cults, people are expected to believe what they are told to believe without any explanation and follow orders without question.

You don’t have to take the word of someone else. There are universal laws in place to support you. The universe is actually conspiring right now for the complete and perfect success of your desires. The only question is, what are you showing that you desire by the thoughts you concentrate on? Are you planning for success, or thinking of all the ways you’ll fail to achieve what you want.

We have freedom of choice, but not of consequence. Choose wisely.

In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
Terry

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